Smarty!

I was blog hopping this morning and came across this very interesting article on one of my friend's blog. At first, I thought it must be some silly joke about 'sardars'. Well, at least sardars are really famous when it comes to making jokes. LOL However, after reading this, I told myself 'indeed, Indians are smart!' hahaha well, I am half Indian, but hey, I don't mind being called a smartie too.

Read this story out, and you will see just how some people are blessed with wealth, health and also wisdom!

"An Indian man walked into a bank in New York City one day and asked forthe loan officer. He told the loan officer that he was going to India on business for two weeks and needed to borrow $5,000.

The bank officer told him that the bank would need some form of security for the loan. The Indian man handed over the keys to a new Ferrari parked on the street in front of the bank. He produced the title and everything checked out.

The loan officer agreed to accept the car as collateral for the loan. The bank's president and its officers all enjoyed a good laugh at the Indian for using a $250,000 Ferrari as collateral against a $5,000 loan. An employee of the bank then drove the Ferrari into the bank's underground garage and parked it there.

Two weeks later, the Indian returned, repaid the $5,000 and the interest, which came to $15.41.

The loan officer said, "Sir, we are very happy to have had your business, and this transaction has worked out very nicely, but we are a little puzzled. While you were away, we checked you out and found that you are a multi millionaire. What puzzles us is, why would you bother to borrow "$5,000"

The Indian replied: "Where else in New York City can I park my car for two weeks for only $15.41 and expect it to be there when I return'"

Have you ever heard about the 'equation of love'? Well, this is just for fun. I was browsing and came across this. It put a smile on my face. Some are fairly true, but hey, like I said, it's for fun! Check it out below. I took it from a site called "What is love?"

Love = 1 / Fear

This inverse relationship implies the more Fear you have within you, the less Love you will have and the less Fear you have the more Love you will have. I derived the equation from the Indifference Curves Analysis theory and it shows how our minds work. Think about how you feel at the beginning of a relationship when everything seems so wonderful and neither of the lovers have expressed any of their Fears. As the relationship progresses, the ugly part begins to emerge, and when it becomes difficult to deal with, you find Love disappearing faster than a runaway train going downhill.

However, I found the above equation still does not explain what is Love. Further examination showed its primary drivers (variables) are time, space, energy and willpower, from which I got the second love equation:

Love = ( Time * Space * Energy ) ^ Will ( ^ describes exponential power ).

Time – is the biggest test of your relationship showing how long your Love has been able to hold the heat without melting.

Space – represents how much space you have had to express yourself as you are. When you cannot be who you are, the relationship ultimately collapses because there is no freedom for you beyond its confines. You feel bottled and throttled into a trap with no where to express your natural individuality.

Energy – initially I had chosen “matter" as this variable but then realized Quantum Physics describes all matter as energy. Energy represents all the things you have invested into the relationship.

Will – describes your willpower. It is the most influential factor which either exponentially increases or decreases all the other variables. Positive constructive will empowers your Love and negative deconstructive will destroys. Let's look at an example. Your partner may provide all the material needs of life, but if he/she bites you with sarcastic comments, your Love thermometer will fall as if you are standing in a deep freezer.

Of course all equations have to make certain assumptions to be valid. The intent of this article is not to turn you into a mathematician or physicist, so I am only going to describe the most important one: the equation holds true at specific points with other factors held constant (e.g. external factors such as work, friends, family, in-laws). This means the equation will change over your lifetime and to keep Love growing you and your lover will always have to keep working at all the variables.

Is Your Marriage Headed In The Right Direction?

Do you enjoy being married or just fantasize being in a happy marriage? Is your marriage just a means to an end to survive? The following quiz will help you evaluate how well you and your partner are doing in your union.

Answer the following questions in Never, Sometimes and Frequently.

*Little arguments escalate into ugly fights with accusations, criticisms, name calling or bringing up age-old discords.

*Does your partner criticize, belittle your feelings and desires?

*Does your partner seem to view your words or actions more negatively than what you mean them to be.

*When there is a problem, is there teamwork between the two of you or you and your partner are on opposite sides?

*Do you hold back your true feelings, emotions and opinions from your husband or wife?

*Do you feel lonely in a relationship?

*When there is an argument, does anyone withdraw from it? This basically means that one of you walks out and leaves the other spouse alone.

Help me God

I am not happy. There's nothing to do with HIM, but it's just what happened to me and my home. I wish HE is here with me, I just need him in times like this. Seeing him and having him around me is like giving me an added strength. I want him near me, I just need him.

Sparkle your love life

Yes! Everyone knows you are in love and now are convinced too. So what’s next? You know him and he knows you. He knows your desires and you know what he hates. So it’s going well….pretty much.

Is this all that is needed to have a fulfilled relationship? Well, wake up, shake it and jiggle up the love and sizzle in it again.


Here is how to sparkle up that love you have inside you.

1) Bring the kiss-o-meter to an all time high. Nothing is more romantic than connecting with a kiss. It’s an instant gratification of the senses and you know you like it more every time.

2) Surprise him with a love note in his wallet. It will definitely make him think about you. Texting also works but the surprise of seeing a note makes more of an impact.

3) Taking time off and going to the place where you first met is really a good way to connect and reminisce the good times. Old emotions make the love deeper.

4) Think of a blackout. Spend an evening together without lights, television and music. Quietly, gaze at each other in candlelight.


5) Cooking the best meal works every time. You can prepare his favorite breakfast and take it to his bed. This will make his whole day memorable and you have paved a loving day for yourself too.

Got dumped?

There are numerous reasons for getting dumped. Some common ones are listed below.

1) Getting too attached-If the partner is too clingy and wants to hold hands, sit together and never willing to leave the partner’s side.

2) Checking up frequently-This can be really annoying if the person constantly calls up to find out where the partner is and what he/she is doing.

3) Being possessive-When the person stops the partner from seeing his/her friends alone.

4) Insecurity-This can stem a lot of problems. Constantly asking the partner if he finds her attractive and desirable.

5) Constant Reassurance-Asking if he/she loves you several times in a day.

6) Comparison-Comparing your love life with others or past relationships.

The points may seem simple but when faced regularly can have a detrimental effect on anyone’s mind and can cause unnecessary stress.

Isn't this funny?

I shall seek and find you.
I shall take you to bed and control you.
I will make you ache, shake and sweat until you grunt and groan.
I will make you beg for mercy.
I will exhaust you to the point that you will be relieved when I leave you.
And you will be weak for days.

All my love,
The Flu

Should I?

Sometimes, I worry for nothing. Well, I can't really say if it's really nothing or something coming in the future, but I do worry. For instance, just recently, I was talking to a cancer patient, and it scared me like anything. I am worried and I hate it. I know I can't stop it when it comes, neither do I want it too. However, in my heart of hearts, I do pray to Allah for a good health, not just for myself, but for everyone in my family. Health is wealth and I want this particular wealth to be permanently with me.

I hate to see people suffering from diseases, especially the ones without cure. I wish there is a cure for every illness....

When you are in love

I was just watching Desperate Housewives earlier, and something Carlos said triggered me. I believe what he said is true....

"Loving someone makes you forget the difference between right and wrong"

How can it be wrong to fall in love? How can you decide who's better to love? What matters most is that the other person loves you too and care for you. I know I have found him, despite all the 'LQs'(lovers quarrels) we had.

Cranky bear

How to dodge a cranky friend? When a friend unloads her problems on you, it can really suck the joy out of your juicebox, What's a girl to do? Don't sulk and :

Check your mood: When you're in contact with a moody friend, gauge your disposition. Take control of your own feelings so you don't become a victim of your pal's crappy mood.

Smile: Humans, unconsciously copy the people we talk to. When you mimic a friend's irritated visage, you'll trigger the release of chemicals that can make you feel prickly too. In a study by Clark University Worcester, Massachusetts, people told to make happy, sad or angry faces experienced the associated emotions, even after they'd change expressions.

Don't sympathise, empathise: It's too far in their shoes and you could wind up bringing your mood down too. Researchers at the University of Hawaii, Honolulu found that if you over-identify, you may inherit those emotions.

Kissing: it's an art

The dictionary says that a kiss is “a salute made by touching with the lips pressed closely together and suddenly parting them.” From this it is quite obvious that, although a dictionary may know something about words, it knows nothing. about kissing.

If we are to get the real meaning of the word kiss, instead of going to the old fogies who compile dictionaries, we should go to the poets who still have the hot blood of youth coursing in their veins. For, instance, Coleridge called a kiss, “nectar breathing.” Shakespeare says that a kiss is a “seal of love. Martial, that old Roman poet who hid ample opportunity to do research work on the subject, says that a kiss was “the fragrance of balsam extracted from aromatic trees; the rise odor yielded by the teeming saffron; the perfume of fruits mellowing in their winter buds; the flowery meadows in the summer; amber warmed by the hand of a girl; a bouquet of flowers that attracts the bees.”

Yes, a kiss is all of these… and more.

Others have said that a kiss was: the balm of love; the first and last of joys; love’s language; the seal of bliss; love’s tribute; the melting sip; the nectar of Venus; the language of love.

Yes, a kiss is all of these… and more.

For a kiss can never be absolutely defined. Because each kiss is different from the one before and the one after. just as no two people are alike, so are no two kisses alike. For it is people who make kisses. Real, live people pulsating with life and love and extreme happiness.

Unconditional Love...

Its mystery and depth cannot be explained. Yet we all recognize its presence and its magic. It reveals itself through joy, which can even increase in adversity. We can learn to see ourselves as moving towards becoming able to express it ever more fully. We can learn the steps in developing this quality, which is still in the process of evolving or revealing itself.

Unconditional love is enlarging the self, and an act of will. It is not a feeling or an emotional reaction. Think of the difference between falling in love, and growing in love through all difficulties and conflicts. Unconditional love is an act of mental and spiritual will, it cannot and does not take place upon the emotional level, which is where the problems first register. Unconditional love is extending oneself in the service of the spiritual growth of oneself and/or another, independently of reward or the behavior of others.

Love with obsession...

...is it normal? I would say, yes, I become obsessed to the man I love to a certain extend. I do feel jealous sometimes (when I think there is a reason to be), I do want to cling to him whenever he's at home and not out for work, I do want him to love me more than anyone else in his life, I want him to be my everything and similarly, I want to be his everything. I don't think it's unhealthy as long as we know the limitations and we need to give in wherever possible.

Share your love?

Can love between a man and a woman be shared by a third person?

To me, it's a BIG NO! Sharing intimate and romantic feelings between 3 people is just unacceptable to me. How can I be OK seeing my husband sharing a bed with another woman? Sometimes, circumstances change our decision, it might be right at that time, but it will never be acceptable....

I was watching an Indonesian movie recently called 'Verses of Love'. It is indeed a beautiful story- adapted from a novel by Habiburahman Al Shirazy, filmed by an Indonesian movie director Hanung B.The movie is about love, with 'Egypt'(although most scenes are taken in India and Indonesia) as the surroundings.

Ayat Ayat Cinta (Verses of Love) is a beautifully portrayed Islamic love story – a tale of a virtuous Muslim protagonist (Aisha) who overcomes all obstacles of life maintaining pure ideals.She is the perfect Muslim lady anyone would love to have- she's absolutely gorgeous, she is filled with delight, she is soft spoken, she respects others and most of all, she is a great wife to her husband. Aisha married Fahri- after they were matched by their family and it was love at first site for both of them. Little that she knew that there is another woman (Maria) who is quietly in love with her husband. It devastated her to find this out in Maria's diary about how much she is in love with Fahri. Maria became weak and was on the death bed after her health deteriorated after an accident and all she could mumble on her death bed was Fahri. Aisha, the innocent wife of Fahri was hurting inside seeing how this other woman is longing for her husband, and she actually told her husband to marry Maria- even when Fahri said he is not in love with Maria, but only his much loved wife. However, he fell for her persuasion and married Maria instead.

Now, Aisha did force Fahri into marriage, and they were living together in the same house- all 3 of them, but whenever he sees her husband with the other wife, her heart breaks. It is just impossible, no matter what the justification is. It is just not acceptable. To me, I'd rather be alone than seeing my husband sharing a bed with another woman. The hurt I feel could even kill me silently. Besides, no matter how great of a person you are, you would still feel insecure when you know you have another lady competing for the same love from the same man.

Polygamy has been a very controversial issue in Islam. I know, for me, I can never live with another woman under the same roof, sharing the one man I love. Sometimes, we might face hard decisions in life, but whatever the reasons are, being the 'other woman', why must they pick/ fall in love with a married man? It's just unethical to me.

Love Is...

going sailing with him even if you don’t like to.

passing her tissue papers if the film is too moving.

never feeling like saying goodbye....

Hisssssssss

I am very much afraid of snakes, even the thought of it gives me chills to my core! Be it the smallest ever snake, or the non venomous ones- snakes are still snakes and I get nightmares thinking about them. Just recently, there was a snake in my neighbour's house, and believe me, If I had seen one, I would tremble in fear and might even wet my pants! However, in my neighbourhood, the Indians here don't hit snakes- instead they put these snakes in a sack and take it away. I personally prefer the snake to be killed- and normally this is done using a bamboo.

I remember my parents told me this story about me and snakes. I was about 4 years old when I went to the toilet by myself and stayed there for longer time than expected. Curious, my mother came to check on me and was shocked to see that I was playing with a snake which coiled up all cozy and comfortable at the corner of the toilet then. My mother was obviously shocked and afraid and called my father. Surprisingly, the snake did nothing to me and slithered off from the toilet- without hurting anyone.

Gosh, how did I do that? I can't even look at documentaries on snakes now! and of course, don't expect me to put up a snake photo for this entry too. LOL

It's not always easy...

Easy is to get a place in someone's address book - Difficult is get a place in someone's heart?

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others- Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes?

Easy is to talk without thinking - Difficult is to refrain the tongue?

Easy is to hurt someone who loves us - Difficult is to heal the wound?

Easy is to forgive- Difficult is to ask for forgiveness?

Easy is to set rules - Difficult is to follow them?

Easy is to dream every night- Difficult is to fight for a dream?

Easy is to show victory - Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity?

Easy is to admire a full moon- Difficult is to see the other side?

Easy is to stumble with a stone - Difficult is to get up?

Easy is to enjoy life everyday -Difficult is to give its value?

Easy is to pray every night - Difficult is to find god in small things?

Easy is to promise something to someone - Difficult is to fulfill that promise?

Easy is to say we love - Difficult is to show it everyday?

Easy is to criticize others - Difficult is to improve oneself?

Easy is to make mistakes - Difficult is to learn from them?

Easy is to weep for a lost love - Difficult is to take care of it so not lose it?

Easy is to think about improvement - Difficult is to stop thinking about it and put into action?

Easy is to think bad of others - Difficult is to give them the benefit of the doubt?

Easy is to receive - Difficult is to give?

Easy is to read this - Difficult is to follow?

Women and relationship?

If a woman really understood men, she'd know how to effortlessly attract men like a magnet, make men powerless in her hands, have them treat her like a queen, and give her everything her heart desires.

The main obstacle women face in their effort to understand men is that they turn to all the wrong things: They seek advice from their girlfriends, who are just as clueless as they are in figuring men out; and they read dime-store relationship advice from women's magazines.

If you're like most women, you probably love talking to your girlfriends about your relationship troubles, and -- yikes! -- asking them for relationship advice. Unless your girlfriend happens to be a professional relationship therapist, who has counseled many couples towards successful relationships -- and unless she herself has a successful relationship with a man (very important!) -- it's unwise to take relationship advice or tips from your girlfriend (or your mother, sister, cousin or aunt, for that matter).

By all means, seek the listening ear of a girlfriend if you simply want to unburden -- and if talking to your girlfriend makes you feel better. But always remember that talking to your girlfriends (as depicted accurately in the once-popular Sex and the City TV series), fosters deeper and better friendships with your girlfriends -- but does nothing to improve your relationships with men.