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Wednesday, 17 February 2010
When things go wrong
I used to have this poem on my desk in school. It really motivates me whenever I feel down and miss home (I was in a boarding school). Maybe, I should have taken up Finance Brokers, then, my life might have changed for good. Well, I hope all is well for me!
When things go wrong as they sometimes will;
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill;
When the funds are low, and the debts are high;
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh;
When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.
Success is failure turned inside out;
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt;
And you can never tell how close you are;
It may be near when it seems afar.
So, stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit -
It’s when things go wrong that you mustn’t quit
When things go wrong as they sometimes will;
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill;
When the funds are low, and the debts are high;
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh;
When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.
Success is failure turned inside out;
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt;
And you can never tell how close you are;
It may be near when it seems afar.
So, stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit -
It’s when things go wrong that you mustn’t quit
Friday, 12 February 2010
Celebrating Valentine's Day- Part 2
One of their false beliefs connected with this festival was that the names of girls who had reached marriageable age would be written on small rolls of paper and placed in a dish on a table. Then the young men who wanted to get married would be called, and each of them would pick a piece of paper. He would put himself at the service of the girl whose name he had drawn for one year, so that they could find out about one another. Then they would get married, or they would repeat the same process again on the day of the festival in the following year. The very common gifts on this special day are flowers, save the date postcards and of course great dinner!
The Christian clergy reacted against this tradition, which they considered to have a corrupting influence on the morals of young men and women. It was abolished in Italy, where it had been well-known, then it was revived in the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries, when in some western countries there appeared shops which sold small books called “Valentine’s books”, which contained love poems, from which the one who wanted to send a greeting to his sweetheart could choose. They also contained suggestions for writing love letters.
It was also said concerning the origins of this holiday that when the Romans became Christian, after Christianity had become widespread, the Roman emperor Claudius II decreed in the third century CE that soldiers should not get married, because marriage would distract them from the wars they used to fight. This decree was opposed by Saint Valentine, who started to perform marriages for the soldiers in secret. When the emperor found out about that, he threw him in jail and sentenced him to execution. In prison, he (Saint Valentine) fell in love with the jailer’s daughter, but this was a secret because according to Christian laws, priests and monks were forbidden to marry or fall in love. But he is still regarded highly by the Christians because of his steadfastness in adhering to Christianity when the emperor offered to pardon him if he forsook Christianity and worshipped the Roman gods; then he would be one of his closest confidantes and he would make him his son-in-law. But Valentine refused this offer and preferred Christianity, so he was executed on 14 February 270 CE, on the eve of February 15, the festival of Lupercalis. So this day was named for this saint.
In The Story of Civilization, it says that the Church devised a calendar in which every day was designated as the feast day of one of the saints. In England, Saint Valentine’s Day was to come at the end of winter. When that day came, according to them, the birds mated enthusiastically in the forests, and the young men would put flowers on the windowsills of the homes of the girls whom they loved. (The Story of Civilization by Will Durant, 15/23) The Pope designated the day of the death of Saint Valentine, February 14, 270 CE, as a festival of love. Who is the Pope? He is the “the archbishop, the supreme pontiff of the universal church, the successor of Saint Peter.” Look at this “archbishop” and how he prescribed for them the observance of this festival which was an innovation in their religion. This reminds us of what Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“They (Jews and Christians) took their rabbis and their monks to be their lords besides Allaah (by obeying them in things which they made lawful or unlawful according to their own desires without being ordered by Allaah)…”[al-Tawbah 9:31]
It was narrated that ‘Adiy ibn Haatim said: “I came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wearing a gold cross around my neck. He said, ‘O ‘Adiy, cast aside this idol.’ And I heard him reciting from Soorat Baraa’ah [al-Tawbah] (interpretation of the meaning): ‘They (Jews and Christians) took their rabbis and their monks to be their lords besides Allaah.’ He said: ‘They do not worship them, but when they permit them something they accept it as permitted, and when they forbid them something they accept it as forbidden.’” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and it is a hasan hadeeth).
Among the most important symbols of this holiday:
1 – Expressing joy and happiness on this occasion, as on their other major festivals.
2 – Exchanging red roses, which are an expression of love, the “spiritual love” of the pagans or the “love” of the Christians. Hence it is known to them as the Feast of Lovers.
3 – The sending of greetings cards. On some of these cards are pictures of “Cupid”, who appears as a child with two wings, carrying a bow and arrows. This was the god of love of the pagan Romans – exalted be Allaah far above their fabrications and their association of others with Him.
4 – Exchange of words of love and desire in the greetings cards which they send to one another, in verse, prose and short phrases. Some of the cards contain comical pictures and funny words, and they often contain the phrase “be my Valentine”. This represents the Christian concept of this festival after it was taken from the pagan concept.
5 – In many western countries, parties are held during the day and in the evening, where there is mixing of men and women, and dancing. Many of them send gifts such as roses and boxes of chocolates to their wives, friends and those whom they love.
The Christian clergy reacted against this tradition, which they considered to have a corrupting influence on the morals of young men and women. It was abolished in Italy, where it had been well-known, then it was revived in the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries, when in some western countries there appeared shops which sold small books called “Valentine’s books”, which contained love poems, from which the one who wanted to send a greeting to his sweetheart could choose. They also contained suggestions for writing love letters.
It was also said concerning the origins of this holiday that when the Romans became Christian, after Christianity had become widespread, the Roman emperor Claudius II decreed in the third century CE that soldiers should not get married, because marriage would distract them from the wars they used to fight. This decree was opposed by Saint Valentine, who started to perform marriages for the soldiers in secret. When the emperor found out about that, he threw him in jail and sentenced him to execution. In prison, he (Saint Valentine) fell in love with the jailer’s daughter, but this was a secret because according to Christian laws, priests and monks were forbidden to marry or fall in love. But he is still regarded highly by the Christians because of his steadfastness in adhering to Christianity when the emperor offered to pardon him if he forsook Christianity and worshipped the Roman gods; then he would be one of his closest confidantes and he would make him his son-in-law. But Valentine refused this offer and preferred Christianity, so he was executed on 14 February 270 CE, on the eve of February 15, the festival of Lupercalis. So this day was named for this saint.
In The Story of Civilization, it says that the Church devised a calendar in which every day was designated as the feast day of one of the saints. In England, Saint Valentine’s Day was to come at the end of winter. When that day came, according to them, the birds mated enthusiastically in the forests, and the young men would put flowers on the windowsills of the homes of the girls whom they loved. (The Story of Civilization by Will Durant, 15/23) The Pope designated the day of the death of Saint Valentine, February 14, 270 CE, as a festival of love. Who is the Pope? He is the “the archbishop, the supreme pontiff of the universal church, the successor of Saint Peter.” Look at this “archbishop” and how he prescribed for them the observance of this festival which was an innovation in their religion. This reminds us of what Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“They (Jews and Christians) took their rabbis and their monks to be their lords besides Allaah (by obeying them in things which they made lawful or unlawful according to their own desires without being ordered by Allaah)…”[al-Tawbah 9:31]
It was narrated that ‘Adiy ibn Haatim said: “I came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wearing a gold cross around my neck. He said, ‘O ‘Adiy, cast aside this idol.’ And I heard him reciting from Soorat Baraa’ah [al-Tawbah] (interpretation of the meaning): ‘They (Jews and Christians) took their rabbis and their monks to be their lords besides Allaah.’ He said: ‘They do not worship them, but when they permit them something they accept it as permitted, and when they forbid them something they accept it as forbidden.’” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and it is a hasan hadeeth).
Among the most important symbols of this holiday:
1 – Expressing joy and happiness on this occasion, as on their other major festivals.
2 – Exchanging red roses, which are an expression of love, the “spiritual love” of the pagans or the “love” of the Christians. Hence it is known to them as the Feast of Lovers.
3 – The sending of greetings cards. On some of these cards are pictures of “Cupid”, who appears as a child with two wings, carrying a bow and arrows. This was the god of love of the pagan Romans – exalted be Allaah far above their fabrications and their association of others with Him.
4 – Exchange of words of love and desire in the greetings cards which they send to one another, in verse, prose and short phrases. Some of the cards contain comical pictures and funny words, and they often contain the phrase “be my Valentine”. This represents the Christian concept of this festival after it was taken from the pagan concept.
5 – In many western countries, parties are held during the day and in the evening, where there is mixing of men and women, and dancing. Many of them send gifts such as roses and boxes of chocolates to their wives, friends and those whom they love.
Celebrating Valentine's Day- Part 1
Praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the Worlds, and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his family and companions. Allaah has chosen for us Islam as our religion and He will not accept any other religion from anyone, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers [Aal ‘Imraan 3:85]
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told us that groups of his ummah would follow the enemies of Allaah in some of their rituals and customs, as it says in the hadeeth of Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (may Allaah be pleased with him), who narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “You will certainly follow the ways of those who came before you, span by span, cubit by cubit, until even if they were to enter a lizard’s hole, you would follow them.” We said, “O Messenger of Allaah, (do you mean) the Jews and Christians?” He said, “Who else?!” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari in al-I’tisaam bi’l-Kitaab wa’l-Sunnah, Baab Qawl al-Nabi (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) La tattabi’unna Sanan man kaana qablakum, 8/151; and by Muslim in Kitaab al-‘Ilm, Baab Ittibaa’ Sanan al-Yahood wa’l-Nasaara, 4/2054)
What the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) spoke of has indeed come to pass and has become widespread in recent times, in many of the Muslim countries. Many of the Muslims follow the enemies of Allaah in many of their customs and ways of behaving, and imitate them in some of their rituals and in celebrating their holidays. The matter has been made even worse by the opening up of mass communications between peoples, whereby the rituals and customs of the kuffaar are now transmitted with the glamorous adornment of sound and image from their countries into the Muslim countries, via satellite TV and the World Wide Web (Internet). Many Muslims have been deceived by their glamour. In recent years, a new phenomenon has spread among the Muslim youth – males and females alike – which does not bode well. This is manifested in their imitation of the Christians in their celebration of the Valentine’s Day, which has led the scholars and daa’iyahs to explain the rulings of sharee’ah concerning that, out of sincerity towards Allaah, His Messenger, the leaders of the Muslims and their common folk, so that Muslims may have a clear understanding of this issue and so that they will not fall into that which will undermine the belief (‘aqeedah) with which Allaah has blessed them.
This is a brief discussion of the origins, development and purpose of this holiday, and what the Muslim should do with regard to it. The story of the Festival of Love (Valentine’s Day)
The Festival of Love was one of the festivals of the pagan Romans, when paganism was the prevalent religion of the Romans more than seventeen centuries ago. In the pagan Roman concept, it was an expression of “spiritual love”.
There were myths associated with this pagan festival of the Romans, which persisted with their Christian heirs. Among the most famous of these myths was the Roman belief that Romulus, the founder of Rome, was suckled one day by a she-wolf, which gave him strength and wisdom.
The Romans used to celebrate this event in mid-February each year with a big festival. One of the rituals of this festival was the sacrifice of a dog and a goat. Two strong and muscular youths would daub the blood of the dog and goat onto their bodies, then they would wash the blood away with milk. After that there would be a great parade, with these two youths at its head, which would go about the streets. The two youths would have pieces of leather with which they would hit everyone who crossed their path. The Roman women would welcome these blows, because they believed that they could prevent or cure infertility. The connection between Saint Valentine and this festival Saint Valentine is a name which is given to two of the ancient “martyrs” of the Christian Church. It was said that there were two of them, or that there was only one, who died in Rome as the result of the persecution of the Gothic leader Claudius, c. 296 CE. In 350 CE, a church was built in Rome on the site of the place where he died, to perpetuate his memory.
When the Romans embraced Christianity, they continued to celebrate the Feast of Love mentioned above, but they changed it from the pagan concept of “spiritual love” to another concept known as the “martyrs of love”, represented by Saint Valentine who had advocated love and peace, for which cause he was martyred, according to their claims. It was also called the Feast of Lovers, and Saint Valentine was considered to be the patron saint of lovers.
“And whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers [Aal ‘Imraan 3:85]
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told us that groups of his ummah would follow the enemies of Allaah in some of their rituals and customs, as it says in the hadeeth of Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (may Allaah be pleased with him), who narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “You will certainly follow the ways of those who came before you, span by span, cubit by cubit, until even if they were to enter a lizard’s hole, you would follow them.” We said, “O Messenger of Allaah, (do you mean) the Jews and Christians?” He said, “Who else?!” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari in al-I’tisaam bi’l-Kitaab wa’l-Sunnah, Baab Qawl al-Nabi (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) La tattabi’unna Sanan man kaana qablakum, 8/151; and by Muslim in Kitaab al-‘Ilm, Baab Ittibaa’ Sanan al-Yahood wa’l-Nasaara, 4/2054)
What the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) spoke of has indeed come to pass and has become widespread in recent times, in many of the Muslim countries. Many of the Muslims follow the enemies of Allaah in many of their customs and ways of behaving, and imitate them in some of their rituals and in celebrating their holidays. The matter has been made even worse by the opening up of mass communications between peoples, whereby the rituals and customs of the kuffaar are now transmitted with the glamorous adornment of sound and image from their countries into the Muslim countries, via satellite TV and the World Wide Web (Internet). Many Muslims have been deceived by their glamour. In recent years, a new phenomenon has spread among the Muslim youth – males and females alike – which does not bode well. This is manifested in their imitation of the Christians in their celebration of the Valentine’s Day, which has led the scholars and daa’iyahs to explain the rulings of sharee’ah concerning that, out of sincerity towards Allaah, His Messenger, the leaders of the Muslims and their common folk, so that Muslims may have a clear understanding of this issue and so that they will not fall into that which will undermine the belief (‘aqeedah) with which Allaah has blessed them.
This is a brief discussion of the origins, development and purpose of this holiday, and what the Muslim should do with regard to it. The story of the Festival of Love (Valentine’s Day)
The Festival of Love was one of the festivals of the pagan Romans, when paganism was the prevalent religion of the Romans more than seventeen centuries ago. In the pagan Roman concept, it was an expression of “spiritual love”.
There were myths associated with this pagan festival of the Romans, which persisted with their Christian heirs. Among the most famous of these myths was the Roman belief that Romulus, the founder of Rome, was suckled one day by a she-wolf, which gave him strength and wisdom.
The Romans used to celebrate this event in mid-February each year with a big festival. One of the rituals of this festival was the sacrifice of a dog and a goat. Two strong and muscular youths would daub the blood of the dog and goat onto their bodies, then they would wash the blood away with milk. After that there would be a great parade, with these two youths at its head, which would go about the streets. The two youths would have pieces of leather with which they would hit everyone who crossed their path. The Roman women would welcome these blows, because they believed that they could prevent or cure infertility. The connection between Saint Valentine and this festival Saint Valentine is a name which is given to two of the ancient “martyrs” of the Christian Church. It was said that there were two of them, or that there was only one, who died in Rome as the result of the persecution of the Gothic leader Claudius, c. 296 CE. In 350 CE, a church was built in Rome on the site of the place where he died, to perpetuate his memory.
When the Romans embraced Christianity, they continued to celebrate the Feast of Love mentioned above, but they changed it from the pagan concept of “spiritual love” to another concept known as the “martyrs of love”, represented by Saint Valentine who had advocated love and peace, for which cause he was martyred, according to their claims. It was also called the Feast of Lovers, and Saint Valentine was considered to be the patron saint of lovers.
women's clothing
I love to shop, especially buying clothes. Lately, I am very much addicted to the womens clothing web site- they have GREAT clothes there with reasonable prices. Divine Trash Online Fashion offers clothings to jewellery for all women- any size at all. Currently, they are having a clearance sale and I bought 1 handbag and 3 cute tops too. Why not check out the site for some cool clothings and save money?
Wednesday, 10 February 2010
Torrents
I have been a fan of Desperate Housewives since season 1. Currently, season 6 has started in the USA. I have all the episodes of season 6 in .avi format. If you'd like to download, contact me by leaving a message. I love watching this series, and most of the times, I get the movies downloaded from torrent sites. I also enjoy listening to music, and most of these music files are downloaded from music torrents. The trick to using torrent is that make sure the file you are downloading is having good number of seeders and not just leechers. You will get to know more about this once you are familiar with torrent downloads. :)
Season 6 Episode 1: Nice is different than good September 27, 2009
Season 6 Episode 2: Being Alive October 4, 2009
Season 6 Episode 3: Never judge a lady by her lover October 11, 2009
Season 6 Episode 4: The God-Why-Don't-You-Love-Me Blues October 18, 2009
Season 6 Episode 5: Everybody Ought to have a maid October 25, 2009
Season 6 Episode 6: Don't walk on the grass November 1, 2009
Season 6 Episode 7: Careful the things you say November 8, 2009
Season 6 Episode 8: The Coffee cup November 15, 2009
Season 6 Episode 1: Nice is different than good September 27, 2009Season 6 Episode 2: Being Alive October 4, 2009
Season 6 Episode 3: Never judge a lady by her lover October 11, 2009
Season 6 Episode 4: The God-Why-Don't-You-Love-Me Blues October 18, 2009
Season 6 Episode 5: Everybody Ought to have a maid October 25, 2009
Season 6 Episode 6: Don't walk on the grass November 1, 2009
Season 6 Episode 7: Careful the things you say November 8, 2009
Season 6 Episode 8: The Coffee cup November 15, 2009
File search on rapidhare
I was trying to get some free software downloaded today, but most of the sites I tried were just disappointing. Either the site is harmful for the PC or the files are not complete to download. Anyway, at last, I managed to get what I wanted from Rapidshare Downloads, under the .music, video, software search. It's so easy and fast to download anything from rapidshare. I am even thinking of subscribing to rapidshare so that I could download multiple files at the same time. To me, they are just handy most of the times, especially when you are desparate to download files! Everyone should have a rapidshare account! It's so easy to do any File Search and downloading is fast too. I have been downloading a lot of video files lately. I enjoy watching movies on my new Samsung HD TV, thus, downloading the high quality movies on rapidhare is all well worth it!
rv rentals
Ideally, we all want positive, tranquil, mature, relatively stress-free relationships but when emotions get the better of us, sometimes we turn into the little two, six or fifteen-year-old child within. You can just imagine what it's like when two six -year-olds have a fight about adult issues.
I have my own story about relationships too. It was nice when things were smooth and we were busy with rv rentals for vacations, but well, it's not always so nice and sweet!
But arguments, conflicts and fights don't necessarily mean that the love between the two of you is lost or that the relationship is ruined. Even when two people genuinely love each other and want to be together for the rest of their lives, conflicts will inevitably arise. And if handled badly, these conflicts can undermine relationship happiness and intimacy, and can result in long-simmering feuds or ended relationships. If handled appropriately, conflicts can actually strengthen relationships and improve your understanding, appreciation and love for each other.
Here are some insights for arguing and fighting in a style that is more constructive than destructive.
1. Bring out everything in the open...
Many of us are frequently led into destructive interactions by the need for denying, or avoiding many kinds of human behavior which society and tradition label as "bad" -- disagreeing, arguing, showing anger etc. But just trying harder to get along ignoring the conflicts and differences in your relationship will not save your relationship let alone make it a happy, satisfying and healthy relationship.
If there are resentments and unsettled issues, or anything that needs attention, be the one to ask for a serious conversation to talk about the relationship and what's going on.
2. Make sure you understand the other person...
Time and again things get blown out of proportion and relationships dashed because one person heard something that the other didn't even say or mean.
Don't assume anything -- always ask the other person for clarification and give feedback to ensure you understand what he or she has said. You might find that he or she has a valid reason for behaving in a way that hurt your feelings. When you understand what the other person is really saying, you'll find it easier to stop yourself from reacting impulsively. You'll also be more open to several ways of seeing the situation which makes it easier for the two of you to can come up with multiple ways of solving the problem.
3. Admit when you are wrong...
Sometimes the hardest part about walking our talk is realizing that we are actually exhibiting the very behaviors we dislike in others. But instead of admitting our own imperfections, we refuse to back down out of pure pride and stubbornness, and as a result find ourselves in a prolonged argument that isn't even worth it.
Say sorry when you're wrong or better yet, go the extra mile and actually utter the word "wrong" by saying something like, "I was wrong about.../it was wrong of me to... etc. Just make sure the apology isn't an insincere, disingenuous, deceptive or manipulative damage-control ploy. Most people can see through insincere apologies.
4. Leave the past in the past...
One small argument can remind us an unresolved past argument or fight, and when that happens, we get even more upset or our hurt increases.
No matter what you are arguing about, do not bring up irrelevant left-overs from the past that should have been forgotten. Respond (appropriately) to what is happening in the moment -- in the now.
5. Don't make every minute detail into a crisis...
Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted. Making a big fuss over everything in life is a sign of serious emotional immaturity.
If you find yourself starting to get really "excited" at the prospect of pissing your partner off (for entertainment value or payback) ask yourself if it's really worth it. I know this may be tough one for crisis junkies who like to stir things up just for the adrenaline buzz. It is not healthy for you to always seek conflict just for being in the center of things or just because you want some attention, in the end you end up alone, angry and miserable. Pull-ease, dial down the crazy antics.
6. Fight with the aim to resolve the issue...
Any fool can criticize, complain, condemn -- and most fools do. Smart people on the other hand, carefully look at all the possible approaches, outcomes and even exit strategies before they begin a "discussion" which may or may not end in fight.
If you have to argue or fight, make sure the heated discussion will be worth it and that something will change in the relationship as a result of the discussion. Your goal should not "emotional release" but finding a mutually acceptable resolution. It is easy to tell when resolution has been reached - you'll feel closer and want to give your partner a hug.
7. Choose your battles carefully...
If you always notice the things that annoy you; or if you focus on what you think your partner is not doing right; or meddle in things that are not your business/you cannot do anything about; or if you feel the need to always win an argument, you'll find yourself obsessed (and even drive yourself crazy) with those particular annoyances and behaviours.
You'll be far more effective in "winning" those battles that are truly important by choosing to challenge only those issues that are truly and personally offensive to your values, beliefs and person. Your opinions and disagreement will bear more weight when what you fight over is really important.
8. Agree to disagree...
You and your partner do not always have to agree. On some issues, you will have to give in. On other issues, you will have to ask him or her to do something that will make your own life easier or your responsibilities more manageable.
If you want your man or woman to do something and he or she is somewhat hesitant, ask him or her to try it for a limited time, such as a week, and then evaluate the situation. This wil make him or her feel that he or she is not locked into a decision. When people have some wiggle room, they usually are more willing to try something even if they have not bought in to it 100%.
9. Try not to bring up important discussions or make important decisions while you are upset...
There are times when you must immediately bring up an issue that is likely to lead to a heated discussion, but you often do not have to. If you are feeling very upset or discouraged, talk things over with others -- a friend, family member or professional (counsellor, coach, mentor, spiritual leader etc). Someone not directly involved can bring a calmer perspective to the situation as well as new ideas, and can help you in dealing with the challenges that you face.
Don't bring in others (family, friends, etc.) to gang up on your partner.
10. Let your partner make as many of his or her choices and decisions as possible...
Most decision you make as a couple and some decisions you make as individuals with the other's best interest at heart. If you insist on always making all the decisions, you undermine your partner's feelings of control, which in turn interferes with his or her ability to deal with other aspects of the relationship.
You're both adults, so get off your high horse, shut up and let your partner make his or her own choices and decisions - even if they are not the same choices or decisions you would make. And don't be sitting there waiting to say, "I told you so, stupid!", instead listen, give support and gentle advice.
11. Talk about your feelings, not your partner's behaviours...
Tell your partner how you feel and not what you think they did wrong or should do right. Avoid attacking the other person's character or areas of personal sensitivity or using language that may be perceived as blaming or insulting. If you stick with "I" statements, rather than "you" statements, your partner won't feel criticized and will be far more likely to empathize with you. Doing this creates a safe dialogue.
12. Be the adult...
If your partner says something that hurts you, don't refuse to talk for days. Silent treatment is one of those things we did when we were kids and is so "old" when you are an adult.
Last but most important, there are no "perfect" relationships. They only exist in movies. If you are always fighting, arguing or bickering for your fantasy of a "perfect' relationship, you'll spend most of your life fighting, arguing and bickering -- and will most likely end up alone, bitter and miserable.
If you are in one of those on-and-off-again relationships and want to stop the constant arguing and fighting once and for all, or you recently got back together with your ex but things are just not working out as well as you'd hoped... and some days, you feel like you just "can't continue on like this" you might want to check out my e-Book: Dating Your Ex - What You Can Do Tonight, Tomorrow And The Next Day To Get Your Ex Back.
I have my own story about relationships too. It was nice when things were smooth and we were busy with rv rentals for vacations, but well, it's not always so nice and sweet!
But arguments, conflicts and fights don't necessarily mean that the love between the two of you is lost or that the relationship is ruined. Even when two people genuinely love each other and want to be together for the rest of their lives, conflicts will inevitably arise. And if handled badly, these conflicts can undermine relationship happiness and intimacy, and can result in long-simmering feuds or ended relationships. If handled appropriately, conflicts can actually strengthen relationships and improve your understanding, appreciation and love for each other.
Here are some insights for arguing and fighting in a style that is more constructive than destructive.
1. Bring out everything in the open...
Many of us are frequently led into destructive interactions by the need for denying, or avoiding many kinds of human behavior which society and tradition label as "bad" -- disagreeing, arguing, showing anger etc. But just trying harder to get along ignoring the conflicts and differences in your relationship will not save your relationship let alone make it a happy, satisfying and healthy relationship.
If there are resentments and unsettled issues, or anything that needs attention, be the one to ask for a serious conversation to talk about the relationship and what's going on.
2. Make sure you understand the other person...
Time and again things get blown out of proportion and relationships dashed because one person heard something that the other didn't even say or mean.
Don't assume anything -- always ask the other person for clarification and give feedback to ensure you understand what he or she has said. You might find that he or she has a valid reason for behaving in a way that hurt your feelings. When you understand what the other person is really saying, you'll find it easier to stop yourself from reacting impulsively. You'll also be more open to several ways of seeing the situation which makes it easier for the two of you to can come up with multiple ways of solving the problem.
3. Admit when you are wrong...
Sometimes the hardest part about walking our talk is realizing that we are actually exhibiting the very behaviors we dislike in others. But instead of admitting our own imperfections, we refuse to back down out of pure pride and stubbornness, and as a result find ourselves in a prolonged argument that isn't even worth it.
Say sorry when you're wrong or better yet, go the extra mile and actually utter the word "wrong" by saying something like, "I was wrong about.../it was wrong of me to... etc. Just make sure the apology isn't an insincere, disingenuous, deceptive or manipulative damage-control ploy. Most people can see through insincere apologies.
4. Leave the past in the past...
One small argument can remind us an unresolved past argument or fight, and when that happens, we get even more upset or our hurt increases.
No matter what you are arguing about, do not bring up irrelevant left-overs from the past that should have been forgotten. Respond (appropriately) to what is happening in the moment -- in the now.
5. Don't make every minute detail into a crisis...
Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted. Making a big fuss over everything in life is a sign of serious emotional immaturity.
If you find yourself starting to get really "excited" at the prospect of pissing your partner off (for entertainment value or payback) ask yourself if it's really worth it. I know this may be tough one for crisis junkies who like to stir things up just for the adrenaline buzz. It is not healthy for you to always seek conflict just for being in the center of things or just because you want some attention, in the end you end up alone, angry and miserable. Pull-ease, dial down the crazy antics.
6. Fight with the aim to resolve the issue...
Any fool can criticize, complain, condemn -- and most fools do. Smart people on the other hand, carefully look at all the possible approaches, outcomes and even exit strategies before they begin a "discussion" which may or may not end in fight.
If you have to argue or fight, make sure the heated discussion will be worth it and that something will change in the relationship as a result of the discussion. Your goal should not "emotional release" but finding a mutually acceptable resolution. It is easy to tell when resolution has been reached - you'll feel closer and want to give your partner a hug.
7. Choose your battles carefully...
If you always notice the things that annoy you; or if you focus on what you think your partner is not doing right; or meddle in things that are not your business/you cannot do anything about; or if you feel the need to always win an argument, you'll find yourself obsessed (and even drive yourself crazy) with those particular annoyances and behaviours.
You'll be far more effective in "winning" those battles that are truly important by choosing to challenge only those issues that are truly and personally offensive to your values, beliefs and person. Your opinions and disagreement will bear more weight when what you fight over is really important.
8. Agree to disagree...
You and your partner do not always have to agree. On some issues, you will have to give in. On other issues, you will have to ask him or her to do something that will make your own life easier or your responsibilities more manageable.
If you want your man or woman to do something and he or she is somewhat hesitant, ask him or her to try it for a limited time, such as a week, and then evaluate the situation. This wil make him or her feel that he or she is not locked into a decision. When people have some wiggle room, they usually are more willing to try something even if they have not bought in to it 100%.
9. Try not to bring up important discussions or make important decisions while you are upset...
There are times when you must immediately bring up an issue that is likely to lead to a heated discussion, but you often do not have to. If you are feeling very upset or discouraged, talk things over with others -- a friend, family member or professional (counsellor, coach, mentor, spiritual leader etc). Someone not directly involved can bring a calmer perspective to the situation as well as new ideas, and can help you in dealing with the challenges that you face.
Don't bring in others (family, friends, etc.) to gang up on your partner.
10. Let your partner make as many of his or her choices and decisions as possible...
Most decision you make as a couple and some decisions you make as individuals with the other's best interest at heart. If you insist on always making all the decisions, you undermine your partner's feelings of control, which in turn interferes with his or her ability to deal with other aspects of the relationship.
You're both adults, so get off your high horse, shut up and let your partner make his or her own choices and decisions - even if they are not the same choices or decisions you would make. And don't be sitting there waiting to say, "I told you so, stupid!", instead listen, give support and gentle advice.
11. Talk about your feelings, not your partner's behaviours...
Tell your partner how you feel and not what you think they did wrong or should do right. Avoid attacking the other person's character or areas of personal sensitivity or using language that may be perceived as blaming or insulting. If you stick with "I" statements, rather than "you" statements, your partner won't feel criticized and will be far more likely to empathize with you. Doing this creates a safe dialogue.
12. Be the adult...
If your partner says something that hurts you, don't refuse to talk for days. Silent treatment is one of those things we did when we were kids and is so "old" when you are an adult.
Last but most important, there are no "perfect" relationships. They only exist in movies. If you are always fighting, arguing or bickering for your fantasy of a "perfect' relationship, you'll spend most of your life fighting, arguing and bickering -- and will most likely end up alone, bitter and miserable.
If you are in one of those on-and-off-again relationships and want to stop the constant arguing and fighting once and for all, or you recently got back together with your ex but things are just not working out as well as you'd hoped... and some days, you feel like you just "can't continue on like this" you might want to check out my e-Book: Dating Your Ex - What You Can Do Tonight, Tomorrow And The Next Day To Get Your Ex Back.
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I used to be very addicted to gambling when I was working in Las Vegas, however now, I have slowed down. LOL Well, believe it or not, I meant it! I am more inclined to online gambling now because it's more relaxing and satisfying from home. Although the adrenaline rush is more in the real casinos, it's as much fun to gamble from home too. There are a lot of sites which gives information on the best gambling index. If you are a beginner, never be afraid because you can read roulette online guide, best casino games guide or check out the online slot games guide easily! These sites lure thousands of people towards the online casinos! My personal favourite is the roulette. I am normally on the Go Vegas site for roulette games. It really keeps me busy and occupied at times I feel low and bored. You should try these sites too if you love casinos and gambling. Hey, you can even play with real money- just be smart at arranging your strategies. :)
Sunday, 7 February 2010
Extenze vs Enzyte
I have a friend who is always complaining about how unhappy (unsatisfied) she is with her boyfriend. The thing is, she loves him a lot, but the sexual relationship is not as good as she expected. I know what she needs- it's Extenze vs Enzyte!
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